Modeling and Mayhem

So, I did a shoot with my friend over at M.A.R.H. Photography on Saturday. He's currently working his magic on the already-incredible photographs, and I'm looking forward to getting more of them back. Seriously, if you're in the El Paso, TX area, he's the man to contact for photographs- I don't know how many times I've seen pictures he's taken of me that I immediately said "REALLY?! That's ME?!" to. He's a lot of fun to work with, and he's bilingual, too.

This one was his "holy grail" shot- he was THRILLED to get the gorgeous car and one of his favorite models (or so he says) in shot like this. I was having fun, and just thought this was a great picture. Again, WONDERFUL dude to work with.
It wasn't any surprise today when I found out that my departure from the military was delayed just a bit more (again), so at least the freak-out was minimal. My anxiety has been SUPER high these last few days, especially when dealing with anything even remotely military- and some things/people not.
I got into an argument with one of my guy friends last night after he posted something referencing something or other "whore"-related. I picked a bad time to bring up the subject, as my anxiety was already very high, but it will never not bother me when people use a term like this. I'm loud, crazy, and often angry- but judgmental is a trait I work hard to avoid- but never claim to fully manage to dodge. I'm not perfect, far from it, and I get that.
But words like "whore" and "slut" are so hateful and judgmental at their very core that I don't see how there could ever be a true purpose for their existence. One of my female friends, one of several who prides herself on being a slut and who sees freedom in living as such, pointed out that whore literally means someone who gives sexual favors in exchange for monetary gain. Good point, but I'll stick with prostitute. It gets the point across equally as well without being primarily derogatory in nature.
Another good friend of mine said, and I quote: Everyone knows that sluts are just women who do as they please, and please they do! I love her. So much. She rocks.
I will never. NEVER. NEVVVVVVVVVVEEEERRRRR call another woman a slut or whore. I refuse. It's a useless, patriarchal, judgmental attitude that comes with those words, and I refuse to allow my niece or any other young girls see me judge another woman- there's enough hate and judgment in the world, I won't add to it so far as I can help it.
As a two-time rape survivor, I don't care who you choose to sleep with, how many people you choose to sleep with, when or where you do so- so long as you're honest and respectful (including being safe!) with everyone you're involved with, I don't think it's anybody else's place to know, care or judge.
Slut-shaming is wrong.